Every Woman Has a Crazy

She wrote that many women “are flooded with worries, thoughts and emotions that swirl out of control, sucking our emotions and energy down, down, down. We are suffering from an epidemic of overthinking.”

It doesn’t help when the only cognitive tools they’re given to cope with it all are “Be yourself” and “follow your heart”.

Helps even less when the men in their lives are told the way to deal with it is “listen” and “validate”.

A useful way to think about women is that they’re sort of like us, except sometimes the Crazy comes bubbling up out of the depths and takes over. When that happens, they need you not to feed the Crazy. Don’t feed it, don’t reward it, don’t engage with it, do not EVER try to reason with it, don’t give it any work to do or any reason to stay around. It loves to argue, so don’t do that. When it encounters a wall of amused indifference or calm contempt, it gets bored and slinks away. It soon runs out of energy if it can’t use yours.

Starve the Crazy, and it will go away sooner and stay away longer. But it’ll never be gone for good.

She doesn’t like the Crazy any more than you do: It’s in her head and it keeps looming up and seizing control. She needs to know that you’ll stay functional and focused on dealing with real problems in the outside world while she’s disabled by the Crazy.

It’s not so much that all women are crazy; it’s that all women have a Crazy. Some of them, you see it all the time. Others, only under unusual stress. When it comes out, don’t ask why she’s doing this to you. It’s not her, it’s her Crazy.

UPDATE: The Evil One says it better.

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